Coffee/Tea Intention Spell

Part of what I mean when I say “tiny witchcraft” is the act of infusing everyday, seemingly-small activities with magic and purpose. As disabled and neurodivergent (ND) witches, we often struggle with our day-to-day taskload as it is. Our magical practice should be something we draw energy from, not something that drains us even more. So rather than trying to fit giant, elaborate rituals into our spoon budget, why not find ways to ritualize what we’re already doing?

That’s what I love about this tea/coffee intention spell. Many of us already start the day off with an invigorating beverage of some sort. Whether it’s hot or iced, tea or coffee, black or full of sugar and cream, this tiny spell takes what we’re already doing and adds a sprinkle of magic to it.

GETTING STARTED

The only supplies you’ll absolutely need are your drink fixings of choice. These could include:

  • Coffee beans or grounds
  • Tea (bags or loose leaf)
  • Coffee machine or kettle
  • Milk or creamer
  • Sugar or honey

And of course, you’ll need a spoon for stirring, and a mug or thermos to hold your beverage in.

If you’re so inclined, you can add a bit more ceremony to it. For instance, you could designate a special mug or thermos for this morning ritual. This could be as involved as ordering a new mug/thermos and consecrating it under moonlight. (If you go this route, I suggest consecrating under a New Moon, for the magic of new beginnings and intention-setting). You could even do this consecration monthly, if you want to get really fancy! Or it could be as simple as setting aside a mug/thermos you already have and only using it for your magical morning brew from now on.

You could do the same thing by choosing a certain type or flavor of coffee or tea, setting it aside and reserving it for your first cup in the morning. But again, these are all bonus frills and they’re not at all mandatory! All you really need is a vessel, a beverage, and yourself.

Before you begin, set yourself up with whatever you need for maximum focus. For some folks, this could mean perfect silence and solitude. But that may not work well for you–I concentrate much better with some quiet instrumental music on in the background, for instance. Or silence and solitude might not even be feasible, if you live with others or if you need assistance to make your morning drink. So if you need music or ambient noise, turn that on! If you have roommates or companions, clue them into what you’re up to–maybe they’d like to be part of the ritual! But even if they don’t want to participate, you can make them aware that you’re doing something that requires your attention for a few minutes.


THE SPELL

First of all, take a moment to create sacred space for yourself. There’s any number of ways to do this. If you work with deities or spirits, you might offer them a greeting, an invitation to participate, or just a silent word of thanks. If you feel connected to the magic of the elements, you might welcome their energy into the alchemy that you are about to create. Or you might simply say a few words of opening (aloud or to yourself), such as, “Blessings on this moment and this place, where I set my intention for the day ahead.”

Start up your coffee machine, your tea kettle, or whatever you’re using to make your beverage today. As your drink brews, steeps, warms, etc., take a moment to decide what, exactly, your intention for today is. This could be a tangible goal you set for the day, something you know you want to work on or get done.

For example:

  • I’m going to do 10 minutes of stretching today.
  • I want to respond to at least three emails.
  • Today I’d like to call my grandfather to catch up with him.

Your intention could also be something more abstract, like a feeling you want to invite into your day or a manner of communication you want to foster.

An intention like this might be:

  • Let me treat myself with kindness.
  • I will bring compassion into my conversations today.
  • I hope to be gentle with myself and others.

If I feel up to it, I like to try a soft meditation while I’m waiting for my tea to steep. Sometimes I focus on my intention. Other times I’ll choose a mantra or short prayer to repeat to myself. Recently I’ve been using a mantra I borrowed and adjusted from Monk and Robot, a series by my favorite author Becky Chambers. I’ve changed the deity’s name–in the book the god is Allalae, the god of small comforts. But that feels close enough to my own patron goddess Hestia, deity of the home and hearth, that subbing in her name for his just clicks. Plus it’s a really satisfying loop to repeat to yourself: “Hestia holds, Hestia warms, Hestia soothes and Hestia charms.”

If meditation or sustained focus don’t feel doable, though, use this steeping/brewing time to do something small to begin your morning. I don’t mean mindlessly scrolling through social media (though I am absolutely guilty of that, and will be again). I mean doing a stretch or two to wake up your body, or sending a text message to a loved one to say good morning, or even just popping outside for a moment to breathe in the fresh air. The activity you choose could be anything, just make sure you do it purposefully and with intention.

And speaking of intention, once your tea or coffee is ready, take a moment to focus on the intention you chose for your day. You may speak it out loud if you like, or simply hold it in your mind. Imagine that you are infusing your beverage with the goals and ideas you have for the day ahead. By drinking this magically-infused brew, you infuse yourself with the magic you’ve created.

You may remain in this sacred space for as long as you like. If I have a lot of time and focus, I’ll try to leave my phone off to one side and focus on the music I’m listening to as I drink. Often, though, this is too much to ask for my brain. So whenever I’m ready, I’ll say a quick thank you to Hestia to seal the spell. You can end with “blessed be,” or “so mote it be” if you want to be fancy. Or you can even just close the spell by letting go of the thread of focus and letting yourself move on to whatever’s next.


It may seem like a very low-key spell, all told, but that’s the point. I’d love to be the kind of person who could do a sun salutation yoga session and a full meditation every morning, and occasionally I am…but I’m usually not. What I am is someone who has tea every morning unless I am DEEP in the flareup trenches. So by attaching a bit of ritual to something I already do, I get a spiritual start to my morning, without adding much extra work to the process.

I hope that this tiny spell provides the same small spiritual start for you! I’d love to hear how it felt for you, or if you added any other accommodations that made it work better.

Blessed be!

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This episode is also available as a blog post: http://ruleestory.com/2022/10/20/coffee-tea-intention-spell/

Fundamentals: Accessible Witchcraft

Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt like a Bad Witch.

Not a Bad Witch in the Wizard of Oz Wicked Witch sense. I’m talking about feeling like a Bad Witch because you don’t have the energy to perform elaborate rituals every full moon and sabbat. Because you don’t have the funds to keep a cabinet full of appropriately-colored candles and herbs on hand. Because you don’t have the mental bandwidth to meditate daily.

Maybe by “Bad Witch” what I really mean is “Lazy Witch.”

I’ve certainly felt that way. As a witch with a chronic pain condition, anxiety, and probable sensory processing challenges, I’ve flayed myself with guilt when I missed a chance to do a full moon tarot reading. I’ve felt awful for not observing a sabbat because I was too exhausted to go out and buy supplies. I’ve called myself all kinds of names for falling asleep halfway through a meditation session.

It’s easy to look at witchcraft books or witchy social media pages and hold yourself up to an impossible standard. We do that with every aspect of our lives, right? From cooking to exercise to interior decorating, if your lived experience doesn’t seem to measure up to your Instagram feed, it’s tempting to blame yourself. To point to a lack of will or discipline on your part. To think of yourself as lazy. Not enough. Why would our witchy lives be any different, somehow immune to this vicious cycle of comparison?

But in the last few years, I’ve been working on consciously shifting my expectations for myself and my witchcraft. And what I’ve learned is this: if witchcraft is supposed to be all about intuition, our intuition as disabled and neurodivergent (ND) witches is just as important to observe. If witchcraft is supposed to include a connection to nature, our bodies and minds are as worthy of connection as anything else in the natural world.

What I mean is, if I wake up on Mabon and my body tells me that it’s in too much pain to go apple picking, I should listen to my body’s intuition and scale back my plans (or postpone them altogether). My body, in all its busted and sometimes-frustrating glory, is part of nature. If I am committed to honoring the messages I find in the great outdoors, I should be just as committed to honoring the messages I receive from (the great) within.

Witchcraft should be accessible. Our most important rule is “an it harm none, do what ye will.” Why wouldn’t that include harming ourselves by pushing through pain, exhaustion, or mental overwhelm? Committing to not harming ourself means adapting our practices to allow for guilt-free rainchecks on rituals or spells. It means making sure that our relationships with deities and spirits are warm and accommodating, not demanding or damaging. It even means allowing ourselves to totally give up any practices that aren’t serving us. Witchcraft should be nourishing, not depleting. Full stop.

That said, there aren’t many resources out there for disabled or ND witches. And while witchcraft is ultimately deeply personal and individualized, it’s a lot harder to freestyle when you don’t even have much knowledge or experience with keeping rhythm. It can be validating and encouraging to hear how other witches are practicing, especially when those witches are finding ways to adapt their craft for disabilities or “neurospiciness” as a loved one of mine calls it.

Even if any one source doesn’t work for your needs, it can provide jumping-off points for developing your own rituals and spells. We can start to build those resources by sharing what works for each of us. I hope that Tiny Witchcraft can be a space for that sharing and learning together.

Tiny witchcraft is what I call the small, bite-sized, achievable magic that I practice. For me, that can mean balancing tarot cards on my blanket in bed so that I can do a reading even in the midst of a pain flareup. It means whispered thanks to my patron deity rather than elaborate offerings. It means finding the simplest ways to celebrate the wheel of the year, like sharing apple cider with loved ones on Mabon.

It’s a lot of trial and error, and of course I can’t offer you a one-size-fits-all guide. Part of the challenge in writing for disabled and ND witches is that those labels cover such a diverse range of experiences. A Deaf witch is going to have entirely different accessibility needs than a witch with ADHD, who will have totally different needs than a witch with Lyme disease. I plan to post regular interviews with other disabled/ND witches to illustrate how other witches with other conditions navigate and adapt their practices. But as with any witchy guide, take only what serves you and leave the rest.

So what can you expect to find in this space? Plenty of starting places to get you thinking about how to Crip your craft. Reflection questions, resources, and ideas that you can use as jumping-off points. Spells, tarot spreads, and rituals that are made by and for disabled/ND witches. Interviews, as I mentioned, with witches who are figuring out how to make their magic work for their unique bodies and brains. And of course a healthy dose of personal anecdotes about my practice–both my successes and my setbacks.

You deserve a spiritual practice that supports all of you, including your disabilities, chronic illnesses, and neurodivergences. You deserve to feel empowered by your magic, not discouraged. You deserve to listen to your body and brain when it tells you to slow down and take a breath.

Let’s start making witchcraft accessible, not just for you and me, but for anyone who has ever suffered from witchy Fear of Missing Out.

And to tide you over, here’s a quick stanza for accessibility. Use it as a morning affirmation or as an incantation before entering an abled space that makes you nervous.

I am whole and complete, and my needs are my needs

My intuition guides and I go where it leads.

I’ve the strength to ask when I need plans to adjust

I stand up for myself as often as I must.

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This episode is also available as a blog post: http://ruleestory.com/2022/10/20/fundamentals-accessible-witchcraft/